Saturday, April 27, 2024

Real Assurance

1 John 3:19-24

Preached 3/24/2024 [Previous Sermon]

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INTRODUCTION

 

We have come to an important part of the apostle John’s letter.  The last six verses of chapter three mark a turning point in his message of encouragement. Before we go on, let’s take stock of what he has said so far and what it all means. How do we know that this letter is one of encouragement? Because we have looked at the end and read his purpose statement, where he said

 

1 John 5:13  I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life.

 

Remember that at the end of his gospel, John made a similar statement, where he said that he wrote the contents of the gospel of John “so that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name.” (John 20:31) So the gospel was written to bring people to belief in the Lord Jesus Christ, and this letter was written to give those who have believed assurance about their ultimate destiny and the power of God to get them to that destiny.

 

As such, the epistle is filled with one word: “know” (k-n-o-w). Knowledge and confidence are what John wishes for his readers. We read, in chapter two: “by this we know that we have come to know him” and “By this we may know that we are in him”.  In chapter three “By this we know love”, “By this we shall know that we are of the truth”, and “by this we know that he abides in us”. In chapter four we read “By this we know that we abide in him and he in us” and “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us”. This is all topped off by the glorious next-to-last line of the entire letter: “And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true; and we are in him who is true, in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life.”

 

The word know (Greek ginōskō) is found 34 times in this letter. Many times he describes a Christian as someone who knows God, and whom is known by God. He says that we can know the truth, and can recognize the difference between a lie and the truth. John is dealing with confidence and certainty. He wants his beloved children to live in faith and be comforted by the knowledge that they have eternal life as an irrevocable gift.

 

If we think about it, there are two obvious issues that come up immediately when we see this emphasis from John.  The first problem is the letter itself. Now that we are coming to the end of the third chapter, we might come away with the idea that John is aiming at the exact opposite of his stated purpose. He has devised a three-fold list of tests by which to assure our confidence in our salvation, and the tests are hard. And for most of the tests he makes statements in the form of if we say we are saved … but fail this test … we are a liar, or we are of the devil, or we are not of the truth. These statements do not seem to be designed to give anybody confidence. In fact, rather than sounding like the preaching of the gospel of grace, they seem to be from a gospel of works, like every other religion out there. Haven’t we read from Paul that “by works of the law no human being will be justified in his sight” (Rom 3:20), and “we know that a person is not justified by works of the law but through faith in Jesus Christ, so we also have believed in Christ Jesus, in order to be justified by faith in Christ and not by works of the law, because by works of the law no one will be justified.” (Gal 2:16), and “he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy” (Titus 3:5), and “by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)

 

So, is John preaching a gospel of works? Is he dismissing the writing of the apostle Paul? NO. But to understand that we must understand what salvation is all about.  That’s what these difficult but wonderful six verses bring us to.

 

Before we get to the text, though, I want to bring up the second question that this book thrusts us into. What is the value of assurance anyway? Why would it be a good thing? Amd why should this be so important that John writes five chapters about it?

 

Consider how many times scripture warns us about having a false hope. All through the gospels we see Jesus assailing the people who were strolling towards hell while thinking that their religious observance, or their birth, or their keeping of the six hundred thirteen different regulations and statutes of the law meant that they were sure to go to heaven. To those who were meticulous lawkeepers He pointed out the sins and hatreds in their hearts that God hated and called the most proud “whitewashed tombs” that looked good on the outside but were filled with death and uncleanness on the inside. He warned against judging others – not because we aren’t supposed to condemn evil, but because so many have built their false hope on the fact that they are “better than that other guy”. He warned that the quietest words that come out of our mouths will be “shouted from the housetops” at the final judgment, and that there would be many who would say to Him at that time “Lord, Lord” to whom He would respond “depart from Me, I never knew you.” The first problem of evangelism is not getting people saved, it is that we first have to get them lost. The law of God exposes our hearts if we listen to it.  It strips away all of our clever rationalizations and leaves our hearts tender and realizing that we can’t save ourselves, so we will turn to the Savior who can accomplish a salvation that we cannot attain for us. Jesus is that loving Savior who came to save those who were lost. So walking through life spiritually blind and proud and complacent is a deadly trap. Even Paul, who had just finished laying the foundation of salvation by grace through faith in Romans, admitted that the first serious question that comes up with such a system is basically if salvation is free and completely independent of our works, doesn’t that mean that we can now live like the devil because we have an irrevocable ticket to heaven? Or as he put it “shall we continue in sin that grace might increase?” So we must guard against a false hope.

 

On the other hand, it is clear that salvation is free and not based on any of our works. All of our sins are covered by the blood of Christ. The salvation of those who trust in Christ is assured. We read in Romans chapter 8:

 

Romans 8:29-31 29 For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30 And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. 31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

 

And we rest and rejoice in the grace of God, don’t we? The adherents of other human religions are like people running on a treadmill, never able to rest, and the treadmill is slowly increasing in speed. Make one mistake and worry if that will be the sin that condemns you. The question always is: have I been good enough? And so we are forced to do ceremonies and sacraments, penances, good deeds, give money to churches, make promises of being better, and trying to make deals with God to get to heaven. It is an unending slog through doubt and fear, with the prospect of death being the frightening thing described by Hamlet “The undiscovered country, from whose bourn no traveller returns”, in the dread of which Hamlet observes “thus conscience does make cowards of us all.” For this reason the gospel is a great comfort. Christianity is different from every other religious system and shows the mercy and love of God in an amazing and unique way.  But here we see the same dilemma, but from the opposite side. If God does everything and we do nothing, then how does I John have any relevance to us anyway?  We seem to be stuck on the horns of an eternal dilemma with no way to resolve it.  We are left with two choices, either go through life ‘fat, dumb, and happy’ and hope it all works out, or keep a detailed bank account of our good and bad deeds, hoping that in the end God will just overlook our faults because, well, we somehow deserve it because we are not really that bad (crossing our fingers).

 

That is the high and mighty place that John is taking us to. Really, then, the first question we need to address is: what is the point of assurance, anyway? Why does John think that it is something which we should grab hold of?  For this, I want to look at these verses a little out of order. If you look at this passage, it forms a simple chiasm, in that many of the ideas at the end of the chiasm repeat the first thought in the opposite direction. John says what we can “know” in the first and last sentences. Inside this layer God is mentioned in an important way. At the center is the goal of this section, where we see the second of four times that the word “confidence” appears in the letter, along with its fruit in our lives. So we are going to start in the middle two verses to investigate the Effect of our assurance. Then we will look at the bracketing verses – at the first two verses to discover the Enemy of our assurance, and at the last two verses to see the Enabler of our assurance.

 

 

I The Effect of our Assurance (3:21-22):

 

So why did the apostle write this entire long letter to ensure that his children in the faith have assurance, or confidence? And just what is assurance? The short answer is that assurance brings close us to God.

 

Works-based religions and cults can have highly motivated members due to the sense of fear they have in their lack of assurance. Generally a person with a figurative ‘gun to the head’ is more motivated than someone who has chosen to be a volunteer, right?  But Jesus has opened a new way, where we serve God and one another in love. Remember that the two greatest commandments are to love God with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves. No relationship based on fear and mistrust will be really successful. Likewise, what will not lead to a happy marriage will also not lead to a happy relationship between God and us. It is love and trust that give confidence and peace, and hope for the future, and confidence is what we need for those values to bloom. The devil drives people by fear, but Jesus repeatedly said “do not be afraid”. He said “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly” (John 10:10). So in verse 21 we see the second time John mentions confidence in this letter. 

 

1 John 3:21-22  Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God; and whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him.

 

The word translated ‘confidence’ here is the Greek word parrēsia, which means freedom in speaking, cheerful courage, and boldness.  If we have parrēsia, we have freedom of speech before God. And our prayers will be answered. The word is used in two ways in 1 John.  In two of the cases (chapter 2 and 4) he is speaking of confidence when Jesus returns and in the final judgment, and in the other two cases (here and in chapter 5) John is telling us that a person with parrēsia will be comfortable communing with God right now. He or she will have spiritual vitality and power in their spiritual battles now. Like John said in chapter two, they “are strong and have overcome the evil one”.  In his commentary on John’s letters, Robert Yarbrough wrote that: “This confidence is a means, however, not an end. … They have confidence “so that” their prayers are effective.”  He also notes that this is the first mention of prayer in the epistle. Why does John talk about effective prayer as an important outcome?  Yarbrough gives us two reasons: “First, Jesus was a man of prayer. … Second, Jesus instilled in his inner circle the conviction that to be his follower is to be reliant on requests made to and granted by the Father. … In the closing hours of his earthly ministry, he placed high priority on urging his close followers to focus their upcoming apostolic ministries on making requests of the Father. … Confidence in God’s presence turns the possibility of petitioning God as Jesus taught into a reality.” [1]

 

So in this confidence we have freedom of speech before the throne of God. As the writer of Hebrews puts it:

 

Heb 4:16; 10:19b-22 “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”  “since we have confidence to enter the holy places by the blood of Jesus, by the new and living way that he opened for us through the curtain, that is, through his flesh, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.”

 

If you are a member of the family of God through faith in his Son Jesus, you have confidence, and your prayers will be effective. Will we always get what we ask for? John does give conditions, or seems to, in verse 22, when he writes that we receive what we ask “because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him.” Again, we may think that John is going back to the works theme again, right? It sounds like he is saying that prayer is some sort of quid pro quo where God says “you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours”, and we are back on the path to no confidence.  But John does not say “whatever we ask we receive from him, if we keep his commandments and do what pleases him”, but “whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him”. Is there really a difference between these two ideas? I would say absolutely. How can that be?

 

Remember that John is writing to those who are already Christians. They have not just subscribed to a set of intellectual beliefs about God and joined a church as if it was a social club. Look at verse 23. They have believed “in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ”. The words “in the name of” are crucial. We don’t just believe that if we say the word “Jesus” that we are a believer. We are not a believer because we associate with a denomination. Daniel Atkins writes that “Jesus’ “name” conveys His person and work and all that He is and accomplishes. … To believe in the name of God’s Son Jesus Christ is to place your trust, your faith, in Him and only Him and all that He is – the divine Son, the incarnate Deity, the sinless human, the perfect atonement for our sin, the Messianic Savior. You trust all of Him, not some, part, or even most. You trust the biblical Christ or you trust in no Christ at all.” [2] All through this letter, John goes back to the doctrinal test, which is about Who and what Jesus is.

 

This wording is not unique here. Jesus told his disciples to pray ‘in his name’ many times. We like to think that we fulfill this by tacking on the words “in Jesus’ name” onto the end of our prayers. But praying in Jesus’ name means that we understand and agree with his desires and with his will. Only a Christian with a new heart from God can know his his heart (as we will see when we get to verse 24). But again, this is not a requirement for effective prayer, it is a result of being made into the kind of person whose prayers will be made in the name of (and after the heart of) Jesus. I think that we should say “in Jesus’ name” at the end of our prayers, but NOT because it impresses God, but so that we will always evaluate our prayers by the name of Jesus. Maybe after adding “in Jesus’ name” to the end of a prayer, we will find ourselves convicted that we have not really asked the Lord for something that He would give us if He really loved us. We may find ourselves rather sheepish and change our request to something according to his wisdom and goodness. Imagine a five-year-old walking up to his father and saying “I’m your son and have your last name and I know that you love me, so sell our house and use the money to fill a warehouse full of my favorite candy RIGHT NOW!  In Your Name I ask this, dad!”. Is that request really in his father’s name?  I think you probably get the idea.

 

But the actual truth is that Jesus definitely said “If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” (John 14:14) He said that the answer to the prayer is not limited by his power (He said that mountains could be moved from one place to another) but by his righteous will. James, in his letter gave two reasons for lack of answers in prayer. The first was because we don’t ask. “You do not have because you do not ask.” Thus the incredible need we have for confidence and assurance. By the way, the second reason James gives for lack of resources is that we ask for the wrong reasons, which corresponds to the “in his name” part of the equation.

 

 

II  The Enemy of our Assurance (3:19-20):

 

Why do real Christians lack assurance then? Let’s turn back to verse 19 now:

 

1 John 3:19  By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our heart before him;

 

Verse 19 connects us to the previous section – really to the entire first half of the letter. But the immediate context takes us back to verse 14, where John told us that “We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers.” The word “know” again speaks of assurance. The theme of loving the brethren is repeated in verse 22 as we have already seen. Again, we see that John wrote “because” we love the brothers, not “if”. This, like in the 2 ½ chapters before it, tell us not that we should gauge our assurance by how we feel right at this moment, but by the fact that God has come into us and changed our hearts. Facts. There is no person who ALWAYS feels well disposed to the other Christians that they have to deal with. And none of us has been always appreciated by other people in the church either. Others are imperfect, and we might admit that we sometimes manifest “un-lovability”. If you go home occasionally in a huff or maybe in tears from a church meeting does that mean that you’ve lost your salvation until you make up? Of course not! But you will come back. How will you come back?  “…forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.” (Eph 4:32)  You will always do this if you “love the brethren”. If an affront causes you to never darken the door of any church again, that is the real test, you really did not love the brethren and John dealt with those people in chapter two when he talked about antichrists.

 

So how do real Christians lose their assurance? Look at the next verse:

 

1 John 3:20  for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything.

 

As the popular 1974 ballad put it “feeeelings, woah woah woah, feeeelings”. Feelings rob us of our assurance, if we forget the truth. To combat lack of assurance we don’t turn towards our feelings, but to the truth, as John pointed out in the previous verse. A Christian is “of the truth”. Paul said that our weapons were not of the flesh, but “divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses.” What fortresses? Paul clarified it for us”

 

2 Corinthians 10:5  We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,

 

We conquer error, wrong ideas about God, and especially our feelings, through what we know. As one pundit is known for saying, “facts don’t care about your feelings”. Biblically we would put it this way: God’s truth is not determined by your feelings. God’s truth is not affected by the world’s opinions. The psalmist writes that as “The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD and against his Anointed” the response from above… is laughter: “ He who sits in the heavens laughs; the Lord holds them in derision.” (Ps 2: 2,4) So how can we have assurance when you don’t feel like you are loved by God? Have faith in the God who is greater than our heart.

 

Why does our heart let us down sometimes?  We have many organs in our body, but as creatures created in God’s image we also have a moral sense. We all are born with a spiritual organ, called a conscience, that reacts to sin by giving us guilt feelings, in the same way that our skin gives us pain when we touch a hot stove. The problem with the conscience is that it needs to be programmed with correct data, like a computer. Like a computer, if we program our conscience with evil ideas, then we can go astray. And if we refuse to listen to its promptings, its voice can become so quiet that we mistake other emotions for its moral guidance.

 

So if our heart condemns us, we must turn to God, who knows everything, to get our assurance. Why? What does God know? Well, He knows everything. How does his omniscience help our assurance?  Consider this:

 

When He saved you, He already knew every time you would fail, in advance, and He saved you in spite of all of it. John has already given us the formula, way back in chapter one. If we say that we have not sinned, we are deceiving ourselves. Remember? Then verse 9 gives us that reassuring promise that when we confess our sins (agree with God about them and forsake them) then He will forgive us. That’s a promise! That is something that we know. Then at the beginning of chapter two John gives us the assurance that if any of us sins, God has provided us an advocate, our divine defense attourney – his own Son – who paid the full price for his wrath against us that built up because of all of our sin against Him. As the propitiation for our sins, Jesus acts as our great high priest. The wounds for our punishment are on his body in heaven forever.  Have assurance!

 

 

III The Enabler of our Assurance (3:23-24):

 

So if we are lacking in assurance, if our heart condemns us, where did verse 20 tell us to go? Who is the enabler of our assurance? God is! So let’s finish our study at the last two verses of our passage. In these two verses we see that the security of our salvation has been worked out by all three members of the Trinity. The Father gave us a command and then abides (stays) in us and causes us to stay in Him. The Son gave us a command, and also paid for our sin, rose from the dead to prove our price was fully paid, and gave us the Holy Spirit to live inside of us. The Holy Spirit made us a new creation, puts us into the body of Christ forever, seals us for eternity, and makes sure that we persevere until the day when we “shuffle off this mortal coil” and join the joyful choir in heaven, where we will finally be glorified and made perfect, completely without sin. God has done everything. Hallelujah!

 

1 John 3:23-24   23 And this is his commandment, that we believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one another, just as he has commanded us. 24 Whoever keeps his commandments abides in God, and God in him. And by this we know that he abides in us, by the Spirit whom he has given us.

 

As each member of the triune Godhood has a part of our salvation and assurance, our responsibility is also threefold:

 

Obey the Father. What does He command us to do? The Father commands us to believe in the Son. When He was on earth, Jesus was asked “What must we do, to be doing the works of God?” Jesus answered “This is the work of God, that you believe in him whom he has sent.” (John 6:28-29) This does not mean that God does not care if we commit murder. The law still reveals his moral character and once we are saved it should become our delight to follow. But the Father COMMANDS that we believe in his Son. Have you ever heard an evangelist tell people that God has commanded them to believe in Jesus? I haven’t. The other command in verse 23 is that we should love one another. We must realize that in our previous unsaved state we were unable to obey either of these commands. Paul gives us clear teaching on this. He told the Ephesians that before they were saved, they were dead in trespasses and sins. He wrote to the Corinthians that “the god of this world” has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they cannot see the light. But at salvation a miracle happens: “For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” (2 Cor 4:6) A light shines in from the Father and burns the image of the glory of the Son into our hearts. Our hearts become renewed, we see the glory of Christ, and we are made into a new creation. This new person can and will follow the commands to believe in the name of Jesus Christ and will naturally love our brothers and sisters in Christ. And because we love our brothers, we know that we are of the truth.

 

Obey the Son: The Son commands us to love one another. Jesus gave this command over and over. He said that our love for one another would show the world that He had come from heaven. He said that it was a new commandment, which John also called it back in chapter two of this letter. But John said that we had this commandment from the beginning because it did not originate with him, but with the Lord Jesus. We show that we are saved because we keep his commandments. We are not perfect yet, but a new nature will show itself. Something new is there, and it must manifest. That person who has been born again will show it by keeping his commandments. We do this not grudgingly but because we have been given a love for Him. As Jesus said, “if you love me, you will keep my commandments.”

 

Obey the Spirit: The final test is abiding. And it is the Spirit lives in us, leads us, comforts us, teaches us, and enables us to obey the Father and the Son. As a Christian we can still quench the Spirit and grieve the Spirit by our behavior, but He lives within us. When we groan within ourselves because we are beyond even knowing what to pray other than our tears, the Spirit groans with us. When we study God’s word, the spirit teaches our hearts and programs our conscience so that we become more like Christ. The Spirit always points to Christ and keeps us focused on Him. John described Him in chapter two (not by name) when He said that we have an anointing from God that brings us to the truth. And the Spirit gives us an experience of peace and assurance from God.  In the end, our assurance is undergirded and made real to us through the Holy Spirit. This is not just a bunch of transitory feelings but an understanding of and faith in the truth revealed to us by God in his word.  Paul describes this wonderful reality in Romans 8:

 

Romans 8:15-17   For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs - heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.

 

 


Conclusion

 

It is appropriate that John ends this section on the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. The amazing gift of the Spirit of God makes us a walking, talking temple. Like the temple of the Old Testament, the glory of God dwells within us. Unlike the temple of the Old Testament, the Spirit will never leave us like He left the temple of Solomon in the days of Ezekiel. This is an amazing gift, and it shows how much God has invested in our eternal life. The gift of his Son and the gift of the Spirit are priceless gifts. They show the love and also the long-term purpose of God in us. We should never think that we have been somehow given a measly measure of blessing in this life. James warns us:

 

Jas 4:5 ESV] 5 Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, "He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us"?

 

God wants us to experience his love for us every day. The devil accuses us, but the Son intercedes for us with the Father. The Spirit prays for us and with us and seals us for that day. We are tempted to think that God has forgotten us by the devil and this world. Shame on us indeed if we think of God as being stingy or unloving. Shame on us!

 

The most joyful Christians I have ever seen are Joni Eareckson Tada and Nick Vujicic. Joni broke her neck as a teenager and has been unable to use her arms and legs now for decades. She encourages others and just exudes joy in Christ and came to the point where she thanks God for her accident because brought her to a deeper relationship with God. Nick was born without arms or legs and has spent his life giving love and the joy of the Lord to others.  I have seen young Christians lined up in a stadium just to come and get a hug from someone who doesn’t even have arms to hug with. Both of them will have great hardships in their lives that make all of my problems scuttle away and hide under the rug in shame. If anyone could say “I doubt God’s love for me” it would be those two. But they shine with joy and bless so many other people with that joy that when I see them I am transfixed. Not by them. They point to Jesus in such an amazing way that when I hear or see them I am drawn to Christ.

 

May we all keep our confidence in Christ.  May we all shine like the lights we were meant to be.  May we let the love for the brethren that God has put into our hearts not be dimished by our own stubborn lack of faith but be cultivated and allowed to flow. The love we show for each other is just the boundless love of Jesus that flows into all of his children and that we give to one another because we love what He loves.

 

My final thought would be that if you have been hearing these sermons and they have not led to assurance, there is no time like the present to receive the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior, to call on his Name and put your trust in Him. Trust Him! Don’t quench the Spirit. Hear his call and turn to Him. If you do, He will never leave you nor forsake you.

 

Amen.

 

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[1] 1-3 John, Robert W. Yarbrough, p213

[2] Christ –Centered Exposition, Exalting Jesus in 1, 2, & 3 John, Daniel Akin, p87-88


Monday, March 11, 2024

Love Versus the Alternative

1 John 3:10-18

Preached 2/25/2024 [Previous Sermon]


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INTRODUCTION

 

Back when I was in elementary school I remember attending a school assembly with my mom where some drama students were doing a short play. Part of the play involved a boy who was madly in love with a girl. He was comically portrayed as being so smitten that he didn’t care about anything else and was only interested in doing things to please her. He was obsessed. I remember making fun of the concept when my mom turned to me and predicted “some day you will be like that”. “Ha!”, I thought with my 6th grade mind, “that’ll be the day!” Well, my mother was right. In seventh grade I was surprised to see a new life-form had invaded my junior high that I had never seen before. By high school I had been through a couple of crushes (sadly) when, suddenly, one liked me back. (?!?!?!) Suddenly I became the guy in that 6th grade play. 6th grade me looked away in contempt at what I had become, but I had it bad. So I married her, (at least when she decided that she could tolerate my weirdness). But all of the signs of love manifested: the mental obsession, the desire to be with her all the time, the desire to please her (and a puppy-like joy when I succeeded in making her smile), loneliness when we were apart, and constant thoughts about our joyful future together. Like the flu, love has symptoms. And anyone who knew me could diagnose the malady I was suffering from without the help of as psychologist with the DSM-5.

 

In his first epistle, the apostle John has been giving his own DSM manual for self-diagnosis of our spiritual condition. And his three main areas of symptoms are, as we have been discussing, in three categories: social, doctrinal, and moral. In the previous sermon we went through a moral test, in chapter 3 verses 4 through 9 he talked about our practice of righteousness, or the moral test. In verse ten he switches to another area of symptoms:

 

1 John 3:10  By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil: whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is the one who does not love his brother.

 

Here he finishes the section on righteousness and moved to the subject of love.  This is, of course, not the first time he has mentioned love in this letter. In chapter two verses seven through eleven, John spoke of love as a new commandment which was also an old commandment. Now in chapter three he comes back to the social test – the love test. And he will come back to the love test again, spending most of chapter four talking about love, its origins, its symptoms, and its ramifications. It is not for nothing that some call John the apostle of love. And it is really that important. Why? Well, let’s get into the text and see for ourselves:

 

 

I  The Ultimate Command (3:11):

 

Like in the previous section John starts with God and his will for our lives. He echoes 2:7 here to announce that he has returned to the subject of love between Christians.

 

1 John 3:11  For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.

 

The beginning in this context is the beginning of Jesus’ public ministry. John is not talking about something new. And yet, even before this there was a previous commandment to love. In Matthew 22 we read a story where an expert in the law posed an important question to Jesus. He asked:

 

Matthew 22:36-40  “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”

 

In other words, Jesus points out that every single commandment comes down to love – love for God or love for your neighbor. Any breaking of the law shows a deficiency in one of these loves.  And as Paul told the Corinthians, without love nothing we do is ultimately of any value. And Jesus expanded this second law, to love your neighbor, to the entire human race. Everyone who needs a blessing that you can give. And He explicitly added that his disciples should even love their enemies. So this old commandment that they already had before Jesus was very hardcore already. So what was the new commandment? Jesus told his disciples to love one another.

 

This new command was not instead of the commandment to love your neighbor. This was an entirely different kind of love. He went so far as to describe it as the defining characteristic of a true disciple. In John chapter 17 the apostle records Jesus’ high-priestly prayer in Gethsemane right before his arrest. He prayed for God’s protection and keeping of all of his sheep in the world who “were not of this world” but who were sent by Him “into this world”. For this reason He asked his Father for their safe-keeping because, as He says, “the world has hated them”. He therefore prayed that God would do two things for us – that He would keep us in the truth and that He would keep us unified. That unity is supernaturally given, and made possible through supernaturally-given love.  He prayed:

 

John 17:20-21  “I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me.”

 

His kingdom will be one big, happy, unified, forever family. And the power of God, when it made them into a new creation, would put something like a magnet in each one of them that would bind them together for eternity.

 

Looking back at chapter two, we see that John described this love like he described everything else: in black and white terms. Love for your brother is something, John said, that you either do have or that you do not have. There is no half love in his theology, because he is not talking about feelings but a supernatural reality that is either there or is not there.  John wrote:

 

1 John 2:9 Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness.

 

Why did John say this?  Because Jesus had told them all – at the last supper – that

 

John 13:35 “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

 

So John did not make up this test on a whim. Jesus is the originator of this test. Jesus also tended to speak of love in strong terms. In the sermon on the mount Jesus taught that murder was just the ultimate expression of the sin of hate. Someone who comes to God and says “look how good I am! I never murdered anyone!” will have their heart revealed to them by the One who knows all, where he or she will see that they have murdered people in their hearts many thousands of times. They fantasize about revenge against rude strangers, they lash out and wound with words, they pass by those who need their help because of anger or pride. They look down on people and call them names. Murder is just the part of an iceberg that extends about the surface of the sea.  Underneath is a hazard that can sink even the Titanic. Jude writes about false Christians in the church that are like “hidden reefs” in their communion services – unnoticed because, for a while, they act like part of the group. Why do these people, that John calls “antichrists” leave? Because they are not born again inside. They do not, in the end, love the brethren.

 

 

II The Ultimate Contrast  (3:12-18):

 

So in verses 12 through 18 John will now describe this ultimate contrast, between the people of God’s kingdom and the kingdom of the world. Like Jesus John uses two words that seem extreme to us, love and hate, but we must understand what these terms mean in a biblical context. Love is of course that which wants the ultimate good for all objects of that love. Paul eloquently states

 

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a  Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

 

Hate, on the other hand, is a state of selfishness and disreguard for others. Hate as God uses the word does not just mean wishing someone were tortured and killed. Hate, when combined with love, indicates a preference through contrast. Jesus told Nicodemus that “God so loved the world that He gave his only Son”. But when chosing Jacob, scripture tells us “Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.” (Romans 9:13) This means that God had chosen Jacob to be in the Messianic line and not Esau. Esau still lived well on this earth during his time, but God gave special grace to Jacob. In the same way we are to love the people in the world but not the world. When Jesus said that “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:26) He was not ending the command to “honor your father and mother” or calling for suicide. We can still love our parents and life itself for all of its gifts, but we must never have an idolatrous love for anything above Him. It is that kind of Hate that John will now talk about, for in this section he is going to contrast Hate versus love so that we can understand that which should be in all believers. And for each he will give us an example that illustrates just what God wants us to understand about them.

 

 

IIA Example 1: The One Who Killed (3:12-15):

 

The first example that John gives us is the first instance of murder in the history of the human race – Cain, the son of Adam.

 

1 John 3:12   We should not be like Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil and his brother's righteous.

 

Here were literal brothers – the first ever to exist – and one hated the other so much that he killed him. John gives us some insight into the motives of Cain here, although indirectly. Remember from the history in the book of Genesis, these two brothers called upon the name of the Lord and offered sacrifices to Him. It can be inferred that they had already been informed of the importance of blood in a sacrifice for sin. Abel offered a sacrifice of an animal from his flocks, but Cain wanted to be unique and come up with his own way to approach God.

 

When the offering was rejected, Cain had many options. He could learn from his mistake and search his soul to see if it was right before God. He could ask God why his offering had been rejected. He could do an appropriate offering, realizing what the symbolism of the offering was. If he loved God and loved his brother, any of these options would have prevented them. But John tells us that Cain’s deeds were evil. He was not offering the sacrifice that God wanted, in the way that God had demonstrated. He wanted recognition for his great piety and creativity. He wanted to be recognized as the most religious member of the family. And because Abel had been declared more righteous than him bit into him like a cancer.

 

Genesis tells us that at this point God Himself spoke to Cain, giving him a serious warning about the state of his soul and the anger in his heart. He said:

 

Genesis 4:6b-7 “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is contrary to you, but you must rule over it.”

 

God saw into his heart, which was forming into a ball of hatred. Murder was there, though it was not yet realized in action. Cain had a wonderful opportunity to get right with his Creator. But he wanted to do it his own way, or not at all. He was jealous of Abel. Paul told the Corinthian church that as Christians “..we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing, to one a fragrance from death to death, to the other a fragrance from life to life.” (2 Cor 2:15-16a)  To those who were right with God through faith and obedience, Abel’s piety was a beautiful thing. But to Cain it was a stink. It filled him with bitterness and jealousy. So he ignored God’s warning and acted out his hate, killing his own brother. The first murder happened, and the ground drank the blood of the first human to die after the fall of man.

 

Thus Cain becomes the example of what a believer should not look like. Remember that John is illustrating what it means to obey the command to love your brother, and this example shows us why. It is natural to have fellowship with those whose spiritual state is the same as ours. Before we were saved, we were spiritually dead, and the only people that we had anything in common with spiritually were others who were also dead. Something about believers rubbed us the wrong way. Like most, the idea formed in our minds of people who thought that they were somehow better than us. But when we were saved, we were adopted into a new family. We became part of the body of Christ. We were given a new destiny. What does John tell us next? Look at verse 13:

 

1 John 3:13  Do not be surprised, brothers, that the world hates you.

 

Why does he say this? Because our family ties have changed. God has in Christ “has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son” (Col 1:12-13a). The word “fellowship” used in the New Testament translates the Greek word koinōnia, which describes the relationship between people who have something in common. It signifies a common belonging, a membership, joint participation, inter-relationships, community, and intimacy. In the context of a Christian it signifies something stronger and more permanent than even blood relations.  And Paul asks poignantly: “… what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, "I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.” If we are a Christian, we are eternally joined to Christ. The world will never forgive us for this.

 

Unfortunately this kind of attitude can happen in a local church. People love to do their “religion thing” but other people’s devotion seems like “too much” or “over the top”. Or maybe they just have so much to do in the world, or maybe too many hobbies and interests that take their time away from Jesus and his church. They resent other church members because they seem “too rigid” or “holier than thou”. Or maybe they are legalistic and resent the other people’s joyous freedom in Christ. They may run from church to church, building up stories of the terrible people that they met in the last church to tell people in the next church, until they find someone in that church that makes them mad. So they move on again, or just stop going to church, but not before lobbing some hand grenades of division through the window on the way out and take others with them. Or maybe they just find reasons to stop going. It stops being reasonable things like “I was sick on Sunday” or “I had work” and changes slowly to “I can watch the service online” and “oh, we don’t do prayer meetings, it interferes with family movie night” or “I can’t come to the bible study because I am up too late on Saturday night.” If challenged to reconsider, they react with anger – how dare you!

 

But John says that with believers it should not be that way. If Christ has put his Spirit into you, that magnet will draw you towards your local church. We will love and not have the kind of hate that is loving less.  He writes:

 

1 John 3:14-15   14 We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. Whoever does not love abides in death. 15 Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.

 

One other application from these verses is important to Jesus’ family everywhere. There is a saying in the world that “blood is thicker than water”. Unfortunately, the one thing that will split up God’s family faster than anything else is when this is applied to spiritual fellowship. Jesus said that if we don’t love Him more than our earthly relatives we can’t be his disciples. But when “blood is thicker than water” becomes “blood is thicker than the Spirit of God that made us into one body” then we get the situation where families become factions. And factions are evil. Just like “I am of Paul” and “I am of Apollos” we can become “I am of Pastor Frank” vs “I am of the Smith Family that has been going to this church for decades”. So many church splits start this way. In fact, just about every church split starts this way. All it takes is for one person to not get their way or one unkind word to be spoken and an entire family just cuts all ties and walks out. Years ago I remember hearing one such person, when confronted with the truth of a quarrel, say “you don’t expect me to turn against my relative, do you?” Sometimes all it takes is one careless word for people to throw away ten, twenty, thirty, or more years of close fellowship and service to the Lord for family pride. We know that we have passed out of death into life, John says, because we love the brothers. It’s not always easy according to the flesh, but John tells us that it is what saved people do.

 

 

IIB Example 2: The One Who Died (3:16-18):

 

It is never good to give only a bad example, so in verse sixteen John switches to a good example, and by good, we mean best!

 

1 John 3:16  By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers

 

So Who should be our example for the kind of love we have for our brothers and sisters in Christ? John tells us to look to the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. I know this seems to be almost a trivial example because it is so obvious, but it really is the only example that God gives us with explicit instructions to become like Him. Of course it is good to find someone whose example we may be encouraged by here in the family of God, but only inasmuch as they reflect Jesus. Realize in advance that that person in the pew next to you may seem to have an untarnished and amazing spiritual life, but they will let you down. They may stumble, or they may hurt your feelings. You can count on it, as you come regularly to this hospital for victims of this dark world. And no matter how hard you try, you will end up stepping on someone else’s toes. And if I haven’t yet, I will probably let you down, too.

 

But what does it make you do? What is your first instinct when it happens? Does it make you want to leave? Does your love grow cold? Do you start to resent the joy of others that you don’t feel deserve it?  Or do you do like Paul wrote to the Colossians:

 

Col 3:12-15  Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.

 

That seems like a lot, perhaps. It is not the way that we generally behave as humans. But if you look at it differently, it becomes a shining source of hope. What if… what if someone clumsily (or even with malice) says something that stabs you right in a hurt that you have, for instance. What if you said to yourself “wow! God has given me an opportunity that I didn’t have a few minutes ago to go in the power of Jesus and return good for evil, to love that person, to be a lookalike of Jesus and bless their socks off. Jesus, please take this hurt in my heart and turn it into love. Let me use this as an opportunity to make the body of Christ stronger in this local church.” Question: does this sound exciting or unreasonable? That is a good gauge of where your heart is.  Don’t worry, I’m not there either, yet.  Please help me to try to attain to that and I promise to help you, or try to, at least.  After all, our example made the ultimate sacrifice for those whose hearts were turned against him and hated Him:

 

Philippians 2:5-8  Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

 

Well then, since we have such a great high priest, how can we not do likewise for Him? Shall we offer half-service to Him who sacrificed more than we will ever be able to understand because He desired to have fellowship with us?

 

As a final thought, John turns again to his example. We love to sing songs about how much we love Jesus and our fellow Christians. But John tells us, in so many words, “talk is cheap”:

 

1 John 3:17-18  But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him? Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

 

This reminds me of why I put the example of my own earthly romance at the beginning of the sermon. Like the boy in the play that I saw as a kid, when I fell in love with my sweetheart it showed. I talked about her, I called her on the phone (back when we had to stand within range of the family phone in the kitchen to talk). I spent many hours thinking about what our lives would be (long before I got around to proposing to her). I got to know her friends and even her family (both scary for an introvert like me). Why? Because of love. And if I was tried in a court for being a fool in love, they would have had no trouble getting enough evidence to convict me and lock me up. And that evidence was there before I got up the nerve to actually tell her that I loved her. Could we be convicted of having love for the brethren?

 

 

Conclusion

 

It’s nice to hear someone say “I love you”. It’s even better, though, to actually be loved by someone. John told us that we know  love because Jesus loved us.  Note that He did NOT say that we know love because Jesus said “I love you”.

 

No.

 

We KNOW love because Jesus “laid down his life for us”. Not just his life. Also, his privilege. His status. His dignity. His unbroken perfect eternal relationship with his Father. Why? Why did He do it for me? Because He wanted to have fellowship with me? To me, who knows me, that seems to be absurd. What do I possibly bring to the table that He would ever want? I don’t know.

 

But…

 

if He can do that for me, maybe I can stand being around others that are foolish, who are weak, not wise according to worldly standards, not powerful, not of noble birth, those who are low and despised in the world, like me, to celebrate my redemption by the One who gave his life for me. (Those were Paul’s descriptions, not mine – 1 Cor 1).

 

Maybe I can find the time to participate in a local fellowship of believers, without checking my watch to see if I am late for that other thing I like to do. Maybe I can set my alarm earlier and study God’s marvelous word with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Maybe I can find someone to minister to this week with that particular spiritual gift that God gave me to build up the church. Maybe I can be that dependable brother that someone else is encouraged to see when they are able come and are looking for something constant in their life..

 

It could happen.  It should happen.  It must happen.

 

Jesus is my good example.  He loves his people.  Not just with words, but with deeds.

 

I pray I can love them better, starting this week.  Not just with words, but with deeds.


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